A - Affection

I am a total rookie at blogging, this is my very first entry. I had no idea what I would write about so I had no idea how to begin. A friend of mine told me about the A-Z challenge and I thought it would be a great way to start so here I am. 

The A-Z topic is Empathy. I learned that empathy is knowing how others feel because I have been through something similar and sympathy is feeling bad for someone for what they are experiencing. Someone who has never lost a loved one cannot understand what losing someone feels like so they feel bad but don't know how that truly feels. When that person does go through a loss like that, they can now empathize with someone who has lost a loved one. Internal verses external.  

Cancer is like this too. I have good friends who have fought cancer and I have prayed and cried with them and even listened to them share their anger at cancer. I have no idea what it's like to be diagnosed with cancer but I can say I have experienced it up close and personal and I have a new understanding of what a cancer patient goes through. I can empathize with the caretakers. 

My husband was diagnosed with 2 cancers in Dec. 2024 which made for a tough beginning of 2025. Our theme became Only God, because we wholeheartedly knew that only God would get us through it. Babe, as I will call him, was told he had neck cancer & prostate cancer. The treatment, for the first cancer, was six weeks of chemo, once a week, and 7 weeks of daily radiation, M - F. This was a grueling schedule as we live an hour away from the hospital where all treatments would take place. He has made it to the other side of all the treatments and is now on the healing side of bringing his immune system to its lowest point and burning the inside of his throat raw. 

We have learned so much along the way about our relationship with God, each other, our children, and our family and friends. Affection was a gift so readily given in the form of prayers, hugs, food, letters, texts and phone calls. Cancer is awful and scary, it is also a gift.

The lesson: It made us stop and reassess life, pay more attention to the little things and be grateful for EVERYTHING especially the affection of family and friends that has been given so freely. 💕

Pouring Hope, 
Nen♥

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  1. MaryApril 2, 2025 at 12:11 AM

    Hello ! My name is Mary I won’t place my full name because I always get from Maria to Mayra 😂 so I just wanted to comment on the blog I just read . Those words are so beautiful and I think you know, we should be caring , loving and have much respect and in this case, well, let me tell you I too have experienced my loved ones having cancer from my youngest sibling to my mom and her youngest sibling. It’s tough and tougher when they are no longer with you,however, when we have faith and trust in GOD it just calms my soul so much and I just want you guys to know that I care so much for Nen and her husband . I will thank God right now for healing and how he continues to heal her husband. There is hope for anyone going thru a tough time and as long as we stay firm and positive, let’s spread that positivity to others and encouragement so that we don’t lose hope. All in all I’m just writing my thoughts. Have a blessed week everyone who reads this and… IN JESUS NAME EVERYTHING ♥️ Love you Nen

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    1. NenApril 5, 2025 at 3:03 PM

      Thank you Mary, for all your prayers, encouragement, and love. You're a blessing! ♥♥♥

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  2. Donna B. McNicolApril 17, 2025 at 3:20 PM

    Having lost a husband to head & neck cancer (back when much less was known about it), my heart goes out to you both. My A-Z post for C was about this, most of my other posts are lighter. I'm off to read more of your posts. Found you via Crackerberries post today.

    Donna: Click for my 2025 A-Z Blog

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  3. AnonymousMay 2, 2025 at 5:42 PM

    Your courage is inspiring! Genice

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