N - Negativity

Have you ever met someone who rarely, if ever, has a positive word to say? No matter what, they just see the negative in everything and walk around like Eeyore with a dark cloud over their head. I call these people, "Fun suckers." They are challenging people for me to be around. I probably drive them crazy being the opposite. The thing is, negativity and positivity are contagious. I know someone who will remain nameless (no, not you!) who could just take a beautiful outing and turn it into a gloomy, awful day.  If ______ ain't happy, ain't nobody happy! Those days would make my head spin! We just wanted to have a nice day but one thing wouldn't go their way and it was over - for everyone. I am not sure how this person has grown up today, but I sure hope that the outlook on life is more sunny these days. 

Having compassion and showing kindness are also contagious. That same person used to ask me, "Why are you so nice to me? I am not nice to you." I would say, "Because I am not going to change who I am." And that's the key, we don't give in to the negative, we have to stand strong against it and not allow the negative vibes to dictate how the day will go.  This is so much easier said that done for sure, but it's what grows us into better people.  Sometimes we have to take some  emotional steps back and think about what we are going to say before we say it and not allow the situation to change us. By the way, no one can change us,  and no one can make us do or be anything - those are choices. We choose to be mad, we choose to snip back, we choose our own behaviors. That's another subject but I hope it helps to think before ya speak. 

I have heard this many times, "God have us two ears and one mouth, so we can listen twice as much as we speak!" I like this visual a lot, it reminds me to be quiet and not get caught up in the negative emotions. There is a verse that I say to myself when I get triggered and want to spew something out. I actually tap my lips as I say this verse to remind myself to stop, "Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips." Ps 141:3  I imagine a little British soldier (the ones with the fluffy black hats) guarding my mouth. Hey, whatever it takes, right? Empathy takes understanding and understanding that some people can be negative, just don't let them drag you down.

The Lesson: Negative Nilly's bad day is not your bad day! 

Pouring hope,

Nen♡

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  1. KristinApril 16, 2025 at 12:07 PM

    Sometimes it's really difficult for me to be positive. I don't think it's a choice to be angry. It is a choice how we respond and act when we are though. You are doing well. I would never have known this was your first time blogging if I hadn't gone back to A. Keep up the good work!

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  2. AnonymousApril 16, 2025 at 11:21 PM

    Thank you Kristin, for your kind words and encouragement. I am so new at this, that I can't get this thing to put my own name in! ☺ I think it's my vpn that is blocking it, it makes it hard for me to comment on other blogs too. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment - much appreciated.

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